Our Birth Story

So it been a while since I last wrote anything and I really wanted to write down some events and feelings that I had while giving birth and becoming a new mom. 

The Beginning 

I had the hardest time sleeping the night before the boys came. I was so excited and nervous, ready to be done being pregnant and scared out of my mind to be a mother. I called the hospital at 5 a.m. on April 14th to schedule my induction. (I guess the hospital gets overwhelmed with pregnant ladies so they can't schedule a time till the day of the induction to make sure they can fit you in.....it's Utah..)

They told us to come in at 6:30 a.m. I didn't hesitate at that, the sooner the better! So we got up and got ready to go to the hospital. 

Once we got checked in and I had done the normal bathroom rituals they have you do I began the 12 hour journey of becoming a mother of two........

They started the petocin at 7 a.m. and I got an epidural at 9:45 a.m. I wanted to watch them give me the epidural, but they told me to put my head down and not move. They wouldn't even let Peder watch. I guess to many people have passed out. 

Our nurse was amazing!!! Her name was Lori and she was just so wonderful. If I could have her at every birth I have I would. No one tells you this, but you spend most your labor with the nurse and only 5 seconds with the person to whom all your money goes to. They nurse does everything but catch the baby and break your water. Lori was so gentle, kind, and attentive. I could not have asked for a better nurse. 

Once I got the epidural I felt it take affect immediately. First my left leg went numb then my right, all the feeling was gone below my belly button except my bottom. I felt like a druggy because I had to keep hitting the button to get a boost to my epidural so my bottom would stop hurting. It finally stopped and that's when I took a nap. 

I never thought I would take a nap while I was in labor, but really I didn't have anything else to do and I hadn't slept good the night before so I was grateful for the time to sleep. It was actually pretty relaxing laying there in bed. The movies always make it look like this sweaty, crazy experience, when in all reality it is pretty low key. 

They also don't tell you that as soon as your water breaks it doesn't stop flowing!! It just keeps coming and you constantly feels like your wetting yourself.   

Around 4:30 p.m. I was ready to start pushing. I pushed for an hour before they moved me into the the OR.....Have you ever been on an OR table? They are narrow and a little difficult to push on. I had to deliver in the OR just in case they had to do an emergency C-section. It had started snowing and I could see the tiny flakes fall through a window in the OR room. It gave me something to focus my mind on as it seemed the pushing would never end. I think the earth was celebrating the birth of my two angelic boys with a blanket of pure white snow. 

After about an hour in the OR pushing and almost falling of the skinny table Fynn's little head started to come out! They brought a mirror in for me to watch so I could see the progress I was making with each push. It was such an odd feeling seeing my babies be born... I felt a little detached, but as soon as the baby was out it was amazed! The doctor cut the cord and let me look at him. He was so tiny and blue, purple, and white. His cry was so sweet and all I could think was please let him be perfect. He was quickly whisked to a table near by, by one of the many people that were in the room to take care of my babies. 

I didn't have to much time to dwell on my first baby since I had one more little guy to push out. As I looked down I noticed a unbroken membrane sticking out.... this was not good. If the sack broke there was a chance that Carsten's umbilical cord would come down before his head and the doctor would have to operate. Knowing that I wanted to avoid a C-section at all possible she told me to push, hoping that if I break the other sake the head would come out before the cord. Well, it only took three pushes and my second son entered the world. This time Peder got to cut the cord. I felt like a deflated beach ball, but a happy one at that. 

As they cleaned Carsten they laid Fynn on my chest. I was overwhelmed with the sight of a healthy baby and still couldn't believe that he had just come out of me! It was all so unreal..... I was now a mother of two beautiful baby boys. They were so small and perfect..... my little burritos

Fynn was born at 6:45 p.m. weighing 5 lbs. 7 oz. 19 inches long

Carsten was born just 11 minutes later at 6:56 p.m. weighing 6 lbs. 4 oz. 19 inches long

Carsten

Fynn

We were in the hospital for the next two days and let me tell you I didn't want to leave. It was so nice being taken care of and I didn't mind being interrupted every three or so hours. They brought me food and water. I didn't have to clean, it was heavenly. The boys were so sweet and just the best babies. I saw a side of my husband that made me love him more. They way he talked to our boys and took care of them made my heart melt. He was to gentle and loving. Carsten was constantly throwing up his food and Peder's concern was so touching.
The first month I dealt with depression. I was so stressed with school, being a new mom, and having two crying babies. It was a tough struggle and the feelings were so weird. I didn't feel connected to my boys and I just wanted to runaway. Thankfully it passed and I could find happiness being a mom. It helped that the boys started sleeping through the night when they were 6 weeks old.
My mom, sister, mother-in-law, and sister-in-law came during the first month to help me out. My ward was so attentive and helpful. I could not have asked for a better support group then those that have helped me!

Two Months Later

Now my boys are two months old and the tiny little babies that we brought home from the hospital are so big. I can't believe how fast they have grown. They laugh, smile, frown, and make my heart melt. Fynn turned form his stomach to his back when he was 1 month old. They both have such strong necks and love to hold up their heads and look around. They will stand up and Fynn likes to walk up dad's chest one step at a time. I still can't believe that I am a mom and that these are my boys.
I lost most of my belly the first week after the boys were born and yesterday I finally fit into my pre-pregnancy fat pants! I am moving up! I am doing my best to exercise and eat healthy though I struggle to produce enough milk for both boys. It has been a long road of learning and I know I still have a lot to learn.  

37 Weeks at Last!

                         

         Well folks, it looks like the boys and I have made it to the end of the line. In a few short days, if the boys don't decide to come sooner, I will be induced and these little angels will be in my arms instead of in my belly.
         It's been a few weeks since I last wrote in my blog so I thought I would do a little updating...

I had beautiful maternity pictures taken by Melissa Blue, one of the most amazing women I know, out at Antelope Island. It was a perfect day for pictures!

Here is our little family! Josie and Fia did so good :)

This is Peder's favorite picture

This is my all-time favorite picture

On March 9th,  Peder and I celebrated TWO years of marriage!!!! As a present to me Peder had me get my hair cut and dyed...... I had it dyed dark because Peder has always wanted me to, thought it has been hard to get used to since I have always been on the blond side of things. I like it now :)

 On March 24th, I presented my thesis to my committee and after a few hours of talk and discussion I became Master Holmstead!!! Can you believe they actually passed off my thesis...?! I still in shock and awe.... Now on to the revisions and submission to the College of Graduate Studies for formatting approval. Let's hope all goes well.

Here I am at 37 weeks..... I have gown an inch around my belly since my baby shower..... I feel large and in charge...... well, mostly just large, but it is very worth it. I have to attend my theory class via Skype because I am to large to fit in the desks... Oh,well I get to go to class in the comfort of my own home and it is pretty great! I do miss my classmates though....

I no longer believe people when they tell me that the babies will start moving less the longer your pregnant. These boys never stop moving, which I love.... most of the time. Carsten still loves to put his feet right under my ribs and Fynn likes to hit my nerves with his little head which sends a shock through my body, not very comfortable.... 

I can't wait for these boys to come out. I don't believe it when people say,"enjoy them when they are in because it is easier when they are in then when they are out." People who say that have never been pregnant with twins.... Ya, I know there is a lot more to deal with when they come out, but at least I will be able to bend over and not suffocate and get up with out needing a small crane to assist in lifting me, walk more than ten feet without being winded, and sleep in my own bed instead of the on the couch. Sleep is already a thing of the past so that wont be a problem. Diapers and feedings will take some getting used to, but I am up for the challenge!

Just one more week and I will be a mom......The idea is so foreign to me and yet so exciting! I will get to hold and take care of two beautiful wrinkled baby boys that Heavenly Father has trusted Peder and I with, to teach and love, support and nourish, keep safe and not loose..... Two little faces to kiss, four little hands to hold, two little smiles to cherish, two little bodies to love. Sometimes I think Heavenly Father is crazy for trusting us with these boys, but He knows something we don't and I can't wait to find out what that is.

 I AM SO EXCITED!!!!!   

30 and 31 Weeks... False Alarm

30 Weeks

31 Weeks

How Big are Babies: Fynn is 3.5lbs and Carsten is 3.6lbs, and growing!!

Weight Gain: A lot.... :)

Sleep: Still on the couch and sleep....well, I am not sure what that is.... my body is just prepping me for when the boys come I guess....

Cravings: The sweets train is still in that station! Let me eat Hot Fudge Sundays!!

Feelings: Life has been so great! I have been blessed with a great husband that is so helpful and wonderful. My thesis is now completely written and in the revision stage!! March 24th is when I defend.... This is a very relieving feeling!

Appointment This Week: Well, today we had a little run to the hospital to make sure that I wasn't going into labor... I was having contractions 2 minutes apart and having craps, but.......It all looks good, just have a little infection that will be cured with antibiotics. We meet with the doctor this Friday so lets hope she doesn't call for bed rest.  

This is my beautiful self at the hospital today

Here is Peder being so wonderful and waiting with me at the hospital

Gender: Still two squirmy twin boys that like to do cartwheels and play with my ribs.

Best Moment of the Week: My 3:30 a.m. walk-up when one of my best friends scared me to death by breaking in to my kitchen. Melissa Strunk, Teresa Sanchez, and Allison Davenport drove all the way down from Moscow, ID to come and celebrate at my baby shower!!! 

Other Top Moments:

- The most amazing baby shower ever! Thank you to JoAnn, the sisters, and Sarah Champion for the great food. My sweet Aunt Jill and cousins Rachel and Keri for the beautiful decorations, and Melissa Strunk and Teresa Sanchez for the fun games. So many people came to party with us and it was just the best day ever!!

- Seeing my sweet sister-in-law who came all the way from Cali to celebrate and watching her little girl run around the party.... she was so funny!

 My friend Carrie and I

- The surprise party that Allison, Corinne, Teresa, and I threw for Melissa! We had so much fun! Peder even participated! 

This was one of the games we played at the bridal shower. Each team had to make a wedding dress out of toilet paper. Peder and I were the dummies. 

Worst Moment of the Week:

-Going to the hospital....Kind of scared me...A lot!

Looking Forward To:

- Defending my thesis!!

- My two year anniversary 

- Giving birth to my beautiful squirmy boys

- Graduating!!!!

Random Thoughts:

- None that I can think of... my memory is getting worse... 

29 Weeks And All Is Well

29 Weeks!!

Well I haven't really grown a lot since last week, not enough to really tell anyway. I am still happy when I hear people say that I don't even look big enough to be carrying twins. It gives me a little boost to the ol' self-esteem. 

I am not going to do the usual blog that I have been doing because I feel like being a little crazy today. So here is the weekly run down:

Sunday Peder and I went on a little adventure to Montpelier, ID. Why Montpelier you ask? Well, in 1917 my grandmother was born and raised in that small little town that is only an hour and a half away from my house. She grew- up there with her brothers and sisters, and both her parents were buried there. In fact, her home is still standing and being lived in today! I wanted to see this piece of history so we went on a drive. A beautiful drive through the mountains with our little pups. I wasn't 100% sure what house was hers, but we went down her street and it had to be one of the houses that we saw, so I am saying I saw her house. Next on the list was to find Grandpa Fredrick's and Grandam Minnie's grave site.   

After about an hour of walking around the cemetery I finally found it!! I had no idea that my great-grandma and I had the same birthday! That was awesome to see! I wish I could have had the privilege of knowing those two great people who joined the church in Germany and left everything they knew so they could come to America. I owe them so much.

 Our happy faces after we finally found the grave site!

One of the most beautiful graves I have ever seen. It was so tender.... It reads "Baby, Beautiful lovely, He was but given, A Fair bud to earth, To bloom in heaven"

Monday brought more writing of my thesis followed by Tuesday which brought presents for the babies!!!

Thank you to Peder's Aunt and Uncle Pedersen for the great gifts! I am so excited for the boys to wear them! We also got another great gift in the mail from my mission president and his beautiful wife. We are so blessed.

Wednesday also brought deadlines for my thesis...... I am at the brink of exploding. I am having a hard time focusing on writing, and being tired all the time doesn't help. I can't wait to be done with this thesis thing. I will be defending the week of March 23rd so wish me luck! 

Short story, a few months ago Peder and I were looking for carseats on-line. We went to KSL (of course) to see what deals we could get. We found two carseats, the color and style we wanted! Each at a great price and not to far from us. One was in Ogden and one in Brigham City. Well, the women that was selling the one in Brigham told me, upon texting her, that she worked in Logan and could bring the carseat with her and I could pick it up at her office. After a few text of excitement that she still had the carseat and it was going to be easy to retrieve, I found out that she was also pregnant with twin boys! What a small world. When I met her I at once felt a connection. She was such a sweet women and I could tell that she was going to be an amazing mom. We had a chance to talk and I voiced some of the concerns I had been having at the time. Just talking to her and hearing that we shared similar fears calmed my heart, as well as the advice she gave me. I felt a connection of sisterhood with her. Knowing I was not alone brought peace. 

Well, this beautiful women gave birth to two beautiful identical twin boys just days ago. They were so small and fragile, but from her pictures I could see the joy she felt holding those two little boys in her arms. My heart jumped for joy thinking that in a few months I would be privileged enough to share the same joy. 

However, today my heart breaks for this beautiful daughter of God. My kindred sister and friend. One of her sweet angels has left this earth for the time being. He was so precious that all he needed was to receive an earthly body and then allowed once again to return to the arm's of God. He was able to bless his family with his presence for 12 glories days and now he is safely waiting in heaven for his dear family. 

In Portuguese, they don't say that a women has given birth, they say that she has given light. This is because they see birth as bringing a new light to the world in the form of a sweet child. Every second that a child is here it brings more light to those that love it and cherish it. We may think that the light is gone when the body dies, yes the source of the light is gone, but the light that was radiated onto us stays with us, in us. So the light is never really gone because it has become a part of us, of who we are. It is easy to be enveloped in sorrow, to allow ourselves to regret or wonder what if. For a time it is ok to be sorrowful, but there is a way to find balm to our pain and that comes from our Savior. "...He has borne our grief, and carried our sorrows... that his bowels may be filed with mercy... that he may know according to the flesh how to succor his people... (Mosiah 14:4 and Alma 7:12)."

The Atonement was not just for sin. Christ felt all the emotional, physical, spiritual, and mental pain we have, are, and will feel. It is only in this knowledge that I have found hope, peace, love, and the strength to go one. It is never easy seeing someone we love leave us before their time, but it is not for us to ask why, it is for us to be glad that we had the privilege to have the sacred, special being with us. I know that God lives and loves us. I know His plan is perfect and eternal. I know that everything happens for a reason, and many times we don't understand the reason. However, God is at the helm and He will never lead us astray. I am so blessed to know these truths and I am so blessed that God has surrounded me with amazing examples of strength that build me and make me a better person. 

Dear friend, you are a choice individual. You never need to wonder why because you are enough. You are amazing, beautiful, special, and sacred. You have blessed more lives than you will ever know and you will continue to do so, I know because you have blessed mine. Thank you! 

28 Weeks and two egg plants

Here we are at 28 weeks and they are the size of egg plants!!!

How Big are Babies: We are going to the specialist in two weeks to get an ultrasound, but they should be over two pounds each by now. 

Weight Gain: I was 199 lbs. last week at the doctor's office....can't wait to see how much weight I will lose as soon as these boys enter the world.

Sleep: Well, the couch is still my bed, but I found out on Monday night that sleeping with 5 down pillows is heavenly!!

Cravings: I want sweets so bad!!! I seem to be losing my self control and the desire to eat ice-cream, chocolate, and cake has been hitting me hard.....so hard to resist!

Feeling: I have been feeling great, but my trip to Sacramento has left me tired. Lots of walking and time on my feet has just worn me out. However, I am over the moon because I got a great score on my theory test!!!! Also, I only got a few hours of sleep Sunday and Tuesday night so my brain hasn't had time to really think about feelings. :) The feeling of stress has gone and now I can relax and write my thesis and read for class. It is nice to have less to worry about now that the conference is over.

Appointments This Week: We go to the specialist on the 18th and see the boys. At the doctor's last week they were both heads up which means C-section, but Carsten has been moving a lot so I am hoping he moves his head down so the boys don't have to come out with a knife! I just keep hoping...

Gender: Still two cute boys!

Look what I made! Bibs!! My husband will be so happy!

Best Moments of the Week: Finally saw the boys kick. I have been feeling them, but yesterday I saw Carsten beat my insides. I presented my thesis findings at the Society for Rangeland Management and even used things I learned from theory in a regular conversation! I think the boys are good luck. At the airport they let me go though the line that you don't have to take your shoes off! It is great because the bending over thing is not so easy anymore. 

Other Top Moments: 

- Got to spend two days with one of my favorite people, Allison Davenport!

- Meet a lot of great people on the airplane rides I was on and at the conference

- The boys went on their first airplane ride

- Got to go to the temple twice!

- Getting to sleep with 5 down pillows

-Going to Mongolian BBQ with Evan and Heather Tortel and then Cold Stone all with my amazing husband!

- Going to lunch with Mary McBride

Worst Moments of the Week: 

- Dreams about forgetting to feed my babies

- Only getting three hours of sleep Sunday Night and Tuesday night

- Having to give a presentation and take a test on little sleep

Looking Forward to: 

- Finishing the first draft of my thesis

-Finishing school and graduating

- Meeting these two little boys that are killing my ribs

Random Thoughts: 

- Will I forget to feed my kids?

- How would I travel on an airplane by myself?

- Do carseats count as a checked bag?

- Will my boys be cute?

- Will my kids be masters at social theory because they are absorbing all the info? That would be really cool!!

Week 27

How many weeks: 27

This was my dad and I at Christmas time- Don't judge my lack of hair and make-up. We were comparing belly sizes :)

how big are babies: Fynn, at last ultra sound, was 1 lb. 8 oz. and Carsten was 1 lb. 9 oz

weight gain: I haven't stepped on a scale this week, but I am pushing 200 lbs..... never weight this much ever

Sleep: HAHAHA! I Have been sleeping on the couch for over a month, sleep comes and goes as I try to find a comfortable position. My sweet husband has been sleeping on the couch as well, keeping me company through the night, he is the best!

craving:  Hot dogs, corn dogs, any kind of dogs.....

Feeling:  I am feeling a bit overwhelmed this week. Couldn't really sleep last night due to having way to many thoughts on the brain. Finishing my thesis and making it through my theory class, while thinking about all the things I need to do around the house, painting the crib, paying bills.... Then having to prepare for a conference in sacramento where I am presenting my thesis, that's not even completely written, and then flying back to take a test that same week..... stress....stress......stress..... This just has been a long few weeks, but I know it will be ok because my babies are healthy, kicking, and growing! That's the important thing and I am also healthy :)

Appointments this week:  We go to the doctor on Friday and I get to be check for diabetes again! Love getting my blood drawn. 

gender: Two beautiful baby boys!!!

This is Carsten's little face! We couldn't get a good picture of Fynn because Carsten kept putting his feet in the way

Best moment of the week: Getting to spend time with my husband!!! I can never get enough time with that man

  Other top moments:

- Getting to got to Olive Garden with my husband and enjoying a nice meal I didn't make.

- Feeling my crazy boys move around like they were playing a game of soccer in my tummy.

- Going to the temple and finding comfort from my silly worries

Worst moment of the week:  Well, I had it today as I realized how much I am going to need help from  others when these two little boys are born, and realizing that there is no way I am going to be the self-sufficient mom I thought I was going to be...

Looking forward to: Going to Sacramento, CA and see Allison Davenport!!

Random thoughts: 

- If I get any bigger I feel like I might explode

- I will be having these two little boys in 11 weeks!

Life is so Precious!!

Hello All,
  I know it seems like this blog is less about the life of the Holmsteads and more about the rants that are going on in Jamilee's head. I just had to put this one out there because it is fresh on my mind. Please forgive the spelling mistakes or grammar errors that are sure to abound in this little rant of mine.

Some background on this article: A fellow classmate of mine e-mailed all the graduate students urging us to find compassion in our hearts for the Box Elder bugs that are running rampant in our offices. He wanted us to realize that they are only looking for a warm place to stay and do no harm to us. As I read this and though about it my mind ran a million miles an hour as I thought about how little respect we as a society have to life in general and even less respect we have to the simple life of a bug. This was my reply to my dear classmate.

Hey Friend,

  So what you wrote has been making me think and I just wanted to get my thoughts out there other wise I might explode. You have such a kind concern for the life of a small bug. Honestly I truly think it is wonderful that you care so much, but I often wonder to myself, “ How can a world that cares so little for the lives of its own species learn to care about the lives of a small insect?”  As I look at our world I see that we have trained our societies to think that it is perfectly acceptable to disregard and disrespect life as long as it falls with in the laws of the country. As we see, through time, laws change and are amended so we can further open the way for greater disregard and disrespect for that sacred thing called life, and this is done on a small scale such as insect and animals and on a large scale like human life.

            However, disregard and disrespect for life is nothing new to our worlds history. Each continent is riddled with stories of wars, genocides, murders, and discriminations, all of it done under some reason or another.  We kill because someone or something inconveniences us, is a nuisance, doesn’t quite fit in,  doesn’t conform to the way the world sees things,  brings no benefit to society, or simple doesn’t belong.

            In some cases killing is necessary for reasons such as food, self-defense, mercy, and in some cases as punishment.  Because there are these acceptations, mankind has used them as a reason to unjustly take control over life and in turn has become cold, callus, and detached from feeling. I know many may think that since it doesn’t interfere with their own lives then it doesn’t matter what people choose to do. People have the right to choose for themselves, but we know that is not true and hypocritical. Because if societies truly believed then we would not have laws restricting acts such murder, rape, stealing, drugs, and a number of other things people choose to do.

             There is nothing wrong with feeling compassion for life.

            I have often admired the ways of Native Americans and their respect for nature and life. A member from the Yakama tribe once told me about how their tribe used to hunt. He said that when they went hunting for deer they didn’t try to find the deer with the biggest antlers they took the first deer that came across their path because, as they saw it, this deer was offering itself as a sacrifice for the sustainment of the members  in the Yakama tribe. They took the deer and gave thanks for its willingness to gives its life for them.  Do we give thanks for the cow that gave its life so we could have its beef? Do we give thanks to the chicken that gave its life so we could have its legs, thighs, wings, and breasts?

            I think it is time for our world to reprioritizes where it puts its time and effort. How can we save a dying world if we have no respect for those around us and ourselves? How can we save the lives of little bugs that cause no harm if we don’t care about human life?

            I did not write this to be confrontational or to offend. I only did it to help people think and look at the bigger picture. Adrian I admire you for trying to make a difference in the lives of small Box Elder bugs everywhere. I hope we can all take your fire and use it to stand up for what is right!

                                         

Life is so precious and short. We don't have any claim on tomorrow or even today. I ask you to take the time to find within yourself compassion for all the things that are around you. No one is perfect, I know I am not! We make mistakes daily, but I ask that we learn from them and find within ourselves the time to care and feel.

Jamilee : )